I think I must have been in the mood for a little fooling around the day I answered that e-mail online. I finally made it plain to her last night that I didn’t think this could work. I’m not able to make myself what she wants. She needs (and I mean NEEDS) a woman to take care of her, nurture her, love her unconditionally, make her self-esteem increase, give her purpose in life. Whew, what a big job I’d have!
I think I was looking for friendship with no expectations but to let it grow if it would or remain as friends if that was the outcome. She went into this with both feet expecting me to romance her off her feet and become her wife. I really do believe that Karma is biting my ass. Years ago I was the same needy, clinging vine who expected to be saved but at the time I was trying to be a good hetero girl.At least I gave that up. Hetero I’m not and never was. But I wanted a man to save me then. Now I see why men were so repulsed by the idea!!! I can laugh now but it was serious then. I’m sure it is for her too. But I’m just not able to be her savior.
I’m not saying I couldn’t fall in love with the right woman. I think I could. Maybe. But she needs to be independent as I am. She needs to have no need of a woman except to be in love. No clingy, no needy, no lonely, no sad or depressed. Happy, outgoing, loving, intelligent, and self aware. Do straight people come out of THEIR closet and tell the world they’re straight? Then I would like a woman who doesn’t feel the need to shout to the world that she’s lesbian. Just because I am, I don’t have to make a production of it. It’s something we could share between us knowing that we love each other.
I know. I’m looking for a woman who doesn’t exist. But if she does, I’d like to find her. I think we’d have a lot to talk about for a long time. In the meantime, I think I’m going to just live my life knowing I’m a lesbian and enjoying the knowledge. And maybe a little lustful thoughts when a cute gal goes by!